Lack of Confidence - Dr. Shilpa Harwani

Lack of Confidence

Do you worry before walking into a room full of strangers?
Does a lack of confidence hold you back in your life?
Do you become tongue tied at crucial moments?

Then you are not alone.
Many people experience a lack of confidence at one time or another, and many more constantly struggle with the difficulties that a lack of confidence can bring.

What is Confidence?
The socially confident believe that they “get on with people” or are “good” at making conversation and listening. People who are confident at work will take on a difficult task knowing that it is a “challenge” so they will enjoy “problem solving”. We often taken for granted what we are good at – listening, finances, raising a family, our jobs etc, but because we live with it we some how believe ourselves to be ordinary, not appreciating that we have exceptional qualities envied by others.

We all experience confidence individually. Confident people tend to display certain qualities that demonstrate that they believe in themselves, they are relaxed with what they are doing, they have the knowledge/skills/ability that allows them to deal with whatever life throws at them…..or can they?

Even the most confident of people have experienced a lack of confidence at times, it is the way that they handle it that is different. Confidence is not a constant and whilst we experience it in a number of areas of our life where we feel comfortable and know what is expected of us, it is when we are faced with something new or where we have perhaps had a bad experience in the past that our confidence can suddenly dip.

How does a lack of confidence come about & what are the effects?
Anna Freud once said "I was always looking outside myself for strength and confidence but it comes from within. It is there all the time.“ People who experience a dip or lack of confidence will experience various emotions from self doubt, fear, anger, helplessness, feeling flustered, to physical things like having a dry mouth and wobbly knees.

Experiences such as lack of encouragement (managers, parents, social group), a perception of experiencing bad luck continuously, being criticised etc. all help to develop a lack of confidence in one or more areas. Added to this there is invariably some sort of internal commentary going on that exacerbates the situation such as “I’ll never get ahead”, “everyone else does it/is better than me”.

Negative thinking and past experience are probably the 2 biggest Confidence Zappers around. Overcoming negative thinking is not as easy as it sounds, just telling yourself to think positively does not always result in the belief that is necessary to make you feel better. Similarly, if a past experience was bad enough, no matter how much you tell yourself everything will be fine, there is still always that little element of doubt “what if”.

So we play it safe, avoiding risks, challenges and new situations, relationships may suffer as negative comments about yourself seem to be reinforced by how others treat you, and of course consistent lack of confidence leads to low self esteem and potentially poor health – all of which can have an impact on how we live our lives.

Why do negative emotional characteristics exist? We inherit certain personality traits just as we inherit certain physical features. The way we react to life's experiences leads to the development of emotional patterns of behavior.

Homeopathic remedies can assist people who want to work on their emotional, mental and spiritual growth and development. The remedies can help people who strive to achieve a more positive mindset and a feeling of well being. Negative moods, thoughts and actions can bring about imbalances. Personality traits, such as impatience, fear, depression, bitterness, lack of self-confidence or motivation affect a person's vitality and can adversely affect health.

Homeopathic remedies do not profoundly change the personality of the individual. It is individual differences which make life so rich. Homeopathic remedies help to restore balance within the personality. For example, a chronic worrier can become an occasional worrier, a highly critical and judgmental person can become more tolerant, and a person with a poor self-image can gain more self-confidence.

Dr. Shilpa Harwani

B.H.M.S.,M.D

Consulting Homoeopathic Psychiatrist

BGR MIND CLINIC

Chaporkar Complex (ground floor)

Rajkamal Chowk

Amravati

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